So, I am sitting here few hours to my 25th birthday and I am thinking BRUH!!! where does the time go? Me? 25? Chai I don grow old finish o! But on the other hand, the gift of living to see THIS day is unimaginable, Why? Because some people did not live to see even their 1st birthday! So who am I to complain? I am alive and kicking, hale and hearty! Thanks be to the Most High!
Someone once said that, every new day means you are getting closer to your grave or better put the end of your life on this earth….that honestly sounds scary on the surface. But on the deeper level, it means you are here and the gift of a new day means you can still right some of your wrongs, do that one thing that you are passionate about etc..etc… Looking back in my life, I have really come a LONG way (it is and sounds cliché but then I can relate to my own story). The journey life has taken me on involves a whole LOT and though I wish I could have sometimes written a better chapter, I DECIDE to learn the lesson right there and MOVE ON. So, today as I turn 25, I am going to share some lessons or better put things I have discovered along the way….which you probably can learn from. That saying, HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!
ALWAYS TAKE CARE OF YOU FIRST: Yea yea I know this literally means be SELFISH….But if you don’t take care of you, who will? Remember, those you think you are slaving for will quickly forget about you when you are no longer around (with few exceptions of course) but like one post I saw the other day ‘Do not burn yourself to keep others warm‘. Let that sink in.
CELEBRATE YOURSELF OFTEN: You do not have to wait for your birthday or Wednesdays alone to crush on yourself. If you have to do it everyday, every hour, minute or whatever go for it. You are not promised the next minute or hour so why wait for a particular date to do so? YOLO (You only live once).
IT IS OKAY NOT TO BE OKAY: Life is hard and sh*t happens. We all have had plans and which did not happen the way we wanted it to be. In those moments, what most people do next is to blame themselves and be depressed about it. Yes, being angry at that moment is a human feeling…this too shall pass. Just don’t stay for too long.
PEOPLE WILL COME AND GO…DEAL WITH IT: This is a very underrated lesson. Even the Bible says everything on this earth is temporary except the word of God. If we really understood this, we will then not find it strange when certain friendships or relationships end. It may be painful at the time but you just learn to deal with it. Just to reiterate this point ‘When you are a good person, you don’t lose people, people lose you‘.
THE TIGHTER YOUR CIRCLE, THE BETTER: Drawing from the point above, as I grow older, I have realised that the quality of your friends or better put the people you associate with should be your concern other than quantity. When I was much younger I remember being clingy and always begging people for their friendships but NOW….GIRL BYE! It is either you are IN or OUT. No GREY AREA. I am thankful for the TRUE friends who have stuck with me all these years….and I don’t take them for granted at all!
YOU ARE NOT ABNORMAL IF YOU HAVE NOT ACHIEVED ALL YOUR GOALS AT A CERTAIN AGE: Everyone we meet is on their own journey…some seem to have figured everything out by a certain age whilst others are just getting started by that same age. None is better than the other (I REPEAT, None is better than the other).They are all running their race on separate lanes and the MOST important thing is they get to their destination. Comparison in this case or even in any case is pointless. Focus on your own journey and work hard towards your goals. You will MAKE IT eventually…maybe not when you think you should…but you will.
AVOID NAYSAYERS/NEGATIVE VIBES: Of course if you are talking about shattering the ceiling and someone is telling you that is impossible or unthinkable…just use that block button…Block them from anything that has to do with your dreams, aspirations, goals etc. You don’t hate them..you just LOVE yourself soo much to allow someone to kill your hustle/winners mode with their negative virus. They could be family sometimes but hey you’ve got to do what you have to do anyways!
SOCIAL MEDIA IS AN ILLUSION, MAJORITY OF THE THINGS YOU SEE THERE ARE NON EXISTENT/EXAGGERATED: Personally, I take everything I SEE on social media with a pinch of salt. Because I know that despite all my struggles and others, I almost always don’t like to talk about them but rather the good ones. So posting a picture in another country does not mean I have everything figured out or everything is fine with me! Thus the illusion is people looking at a snapshot of someone’s whole life thinking they are failures or have not made IT yet. STOP IT! JUST STOP IT. Be happy for people who share their success stories etc. etc…but do not kill yourself over them because YOU DO NOT ALWAYS KNOW THE FULL STORY!
TRAVEL AND EXPLORE WHILST YOU ARE YOUNG AND CAN: Yes! You really should! (my friends know me for this!)If I had access to more money than I have now I would have toured over 50 countries already but I know it will happen soon. I believe that is not advisable to wait for a ‘perfect moment’ (when you are married, get a good job etc etc) before travelling…Whilst you can, do it NOW. You do not know who you will meet or what you will learn along the way. I have travelled to a number of countries and have learned a lot! Until you experience you will not really understand…So please GO FOR IT whilst you are young and CAN AFFORD.
TAKE RISKS…WHATEVER YOU ARE LOOKING FOR IS ON THE OTHER SIDE OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE: If you want to start a business, write a book, whatever you want to do…stop being too afraid of what could go wrong or whatever. The thing is IF YOU DON’T TRY, you can NEVER KNOW. Nobody can categorically tell you that idea will fetch you millions of pounds even after doing all the necessary planning and preparation unless you hit the ground running with it! So I challenge you to take a step of faith today. Your concern should not be of what will happen etc…Irrespective of the outcome, you will LEARN something anyways….
YOUR SALVATION IS YOUR OWN CUP OF TEA, DO NOT BE FOOLED: As I grow older, I have realised that you need to define your OWN relationship with GOD. Do YOU. In the end, you know the kind of relationship you have with your Maker and you will face judgement alone on that day, NOT you and your pastor, parent or friends. Whatever you do with regard to your walk with GOD, so far as you are NOT convicted then GO FOR IT. KNOW GOD for yourself not because your parents, pastor or friend told you to.
THOSE WHO MATTER DON’T MIND AND THOSE WHO MIND DON’T MATTER: Opinions are like NOSES. Everyone has one. Personally, I have always been NON CHALANT when it comes to what people think of me because most times, I don’t have any relationship whatsoever with such people and those who truly know me ALWAYS understand! To succeed in life, it is important to develop a thick skin and turn a deaf ear to a lot of things because trust me, YOU WILL NEED THEM!
LOVE WILL COME WHEN IT IS SUPPOSED TO: Stop awakening love before its time….that is why there are lots of broken souls and hearts walking around…because it is either they did not love properly or they did not receive true love like everyone should! And that is the problem with the generation of today. Some people find love very early in life and it works for them..some do and years later everything fizzles out. Some find theirs later in life and it works or does not after some time…SOME MAY NEVER FIND LOVE TOO (and that is OKAY). My point is do not rush to have a boyfriend or get married because that is the ORDER OF THE DAY…(there is a saying which goes…’If you follow the crowd you get lost in it‘). Let love happen when it is ready. Let it find you and NOT the other way round.
Marriage is not the ULTIMATE achievement in a WOMAN’S LIFE. (Let that sink in!)…and doing it at ANY age is OKAY..There is nothing wrong if you are 30 and above AND SINGLE…That is how many people have rushed and made regrettable mistakes.. Personally, NOBODY can rush me…when I am ready and with the right person, I will go for it. It is NOT my Number ONE priority in LIFE. (side eye to the African folks who think at age 25 a woman especially should be married with kids etc..etc…). I do NOT follow societal guidelines/patterns…I GO WITH MY OWN FLOW!
I hope you learned a thing or two from this. In OTHER NEWS…..I just launched MY WEBSITE! I am soo happy to have done this! Please check it out here. Also thankful to have gone away for some fresh air for my birthday….Thankful for all the blessings in the past, present and what is to COME!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY GERTRUDE ADWOA TEMAH ASUMADU!
Stay tuned for amazing posts and other exciting announcements coming up! Have a blessed weekend ahead!